Dear Dr. Sears: It's not me, it's you.

Dear Dr. Sears: It's not me, it's you.

So I am breaking up with you Dr. Sears. I am breaking up with you, and your whole family of baby rearing experts, your rules, and your implied vision of what a good mother - and an attached child - should be. Your books are full of empty promises, they paint a picture of a mother that few if any women I know could live up to. And they neglect to mention that children are born with personalities and quirks and issues that do not grow directly from their early parenting, but instead these qualities make them uniquely themselves. Your parenting philosophy left me physically and emotionally exhausted from striving to fulfill a fantasy of the perfect mother that it took me years to realize was just that: a fantasy.

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